It CAN change your life

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Discover the 90/10 Principle.

Author: Stephen Covey

It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations)

What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is
decided by how you react

What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us

We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which
throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic

We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the
other 90%

How? ……….By your reaction

You cannot control a red light, but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool
you; YOU can control how you react

Let's use an example

You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee
onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened

What happens next will be determined by how you react

You curse

You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in
tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup
too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs
and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy
crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus

Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your
daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph
speed limit

After a 15-minute delay and throwing a $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your
daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20
minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it
continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home

When you arrive home, you find small a wedge in your relationship with your spouse
and daughter

Why? …. Because of how you reacted in the morning

Why did you have a bad day?

? A) Did the coffee cause it
? B) Did your daughter cause it
? C) Did the policeman cause it
? D) Did you cause it

"The answer is “D

You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5
seconds is what caused your bad day

Here is what could have and should have happened

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "It's ok
honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush
upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time
to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and
waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss
comments on how good a day you are having

?Notice the difference

Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different

?Why

Because of how you REACTED

You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was
determined by your reaction

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says something
negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You
don't have to let the negative comment affect you

React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a
friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.

?How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic
?Do you lose your temper
Pound on the steering wheel? (A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off)
?Do you curse
?Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them

?WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds late for work? Why let the cars ruin your
drive

Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it

You are told you lost your job

Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time
into finding another job

The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your
frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on

Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It
will just make things worse

Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results.
You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and
apply this principle

?The result

Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and
heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle

!!!It CAN change your life

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